Inner Bonding

How long into a relationship does it take you to discover that this person is not right for you? Have your past relationships left you relationship-phobic due to fears of losing yourself or getting rejected? Have you had sex with someone you thought was partner material, only to have the relationship disappear right after having sex? Dating provides many opportunities to learn and grow.

Do you wonder why you often have the same conflicts over and over? The wounded self is quite sneaky when it comes to controlling behavior, so it’s important to discover what you do that perpetuates conflict. Our wounded self comes up with endless ways of trying to avoid and control, so we all have many ways of trying to control that you might not be aware of. Discovering and healing these levels of control, especially in relationships, is a major aspect of the healing journey.

Scapegoating goes on in many families. Were you the scapegoat in your family when you were growing up? Are you still being scapegoated as an adult in your family of origin, by your in-laws, or at work? Discover why you might be scapegoated and what to do about this.

Life changes completely when you learn how to love yourself rather than continue to abandon yourself. Today I want to share an example of a young woman who dramatically changed her life in learning to love herself physically, emotionally, financially, spiritually, organizationally and relationally.

Do you suck the life out of others, trying to get the love you need, or do you allow others to suck the life out of you? Do you often feel empty inside? Do you believe that others should be filling you up with their love and attention? Discover the real cause of inner emptiness and what to do about it, and how to distinguish between legitimate needs and neediness.

Are you still doing the things you learned as a child to try to feel safe? Our wounded self is a survival mechanism, designed to keep us safe, but the ways that our wounded self goes about trying to create safety generally have the opposite result. Instead of keeping us safe, it creates fear and anxiety. Which do you believe keeps you safer - your wounded self or your spiritual guidance?

When a loved one gets stuck in the state of feeling like a victim, and may be angry or raging, you might be able to be a lifeline for them. It can bring you great joy to learn to be a channel of love for them when they are in the rabbit hole of the darkness, fear and despair of their wounded self.

Have you been trying hard to think positively and visualize what you want, yet manifestation is eluding you and you’re staying stuck in your life? Are you getting frustrated that nothing you try is working to manifest what you want? Discover what might be in the way and learn about the deeper level that is essential for manifesting your dreams.man

Are you longing for connection? Do you want to experience intimacy and connection with others, and the joy and aliveness that this offers? We all deeply desire connection with others, but what is necessary for us to have this? Discover what you need to do to create loving connection with another.

Do you sometimes keep trying to connect with someone who is unavailable? Do you believe that you need to be connected with others in order to feel validated and connected with yourself? Do you have a connection addiction? Connection with others is vital for all of us, but when we disconnect from ourselves to avoid pain, we lose the possibility of connecting with others.