Inner Bonding

Explaining and Other Subtle Forms of Control

What happens when you try to explain yourself to someone who is attacking and blaming you? Do you believe that explaining and defending will convince the other person to see things your way? Has this ever worked out well? Speaking with child-like sweetness is another common form of subtle control, as is blaming statements and turning things around on the other person. Discover some of your subtle forms of control and how else to communicate. 

Addictions and the Lessons of Loneliness

Addictive behavior is often an attempt to avoid the deeply painful feeling of loneliness, heartbreak and helplessness concerning others and outcomes. Unmanaged feelings of loneliness can get you off track and into addictive behavior. You can learn to move beyond addictions and stay open hearted and connected with yourself, others and spirit by being open to learning the vital lessons of loneliness. 

Embracing Our Quirks

Are there odd or different things about you that you judge about yourself and try to hide from others? Discover some of the more common quirks and how to start accepting and embracing them.  

What to do When You Can’t Communicate

Do you know a healthy way of behaving when you are stuck and unable to communicate with someone? Is a lack of communication one of the complaints you have in your relationship? Many couples claim that their problems stem from a lack of communication. Discover which forms of communication work and lead to conflict resolution.

The Vital Importance of Self-Compassion

Do you believe that someone, other than you, has to give you compassion for you to manage your painful feelings? Do you have false beliefs getting in the way of self-compassion? Do you understand the difference between self-pity and self-compassion? Discover how to be compassionate with yourself, and how this choice moves you into your personal power and emotional freedom.

Are You Commitment Phobic?

Do you want to be in a relationship but have a fear of commitment? Are you afraid to commit to a relationship for fear of losing yourself or losing your partner? Most of us desire the deeply fulfilling experience of intimacy, yet many people have two fears in the way of intimacy. Are you ready to have the wonderful experience of emotional intimacy in your life? 

Relationship Challenges

We all want to be seen and heard accurately for who we really, and it’s heartbreaking when we are not seen or heard by the important people in our life. Learning to stay open to learning and lovingly manage this heartbreak, rather than trying to control the other person, is a major challenge in our relationships, as is even being aware of our intent. We often convince ourselves we are being loving when we are really trying to avoid facing our fears. 

Bucking the Wound

Healing from trauma and childhood abuse is possible, but it’s not about “getting there.” It’s about letting go of unconsciously re-traumatizing yourself and being in the ongoing process of evolving in love. Discover some powerful processes for dealing with abuse memories, and for connecting with your higher guidance, which is vital for healing from our wounds. 

Creating Your Own Safety Net

How often do you scare yourself with your false beliefs? Our wounded self is a survival mechanism, designed to keep us safe. But instead of keeping us safe, it creates fear due to our programmed thinking. But there is a way to feel safe! Discover what creates a true inner sense of safety. 

Crazymaking: A Major Relationship Challenge

Crazymaking interactions lead to anger, frustration, confusion, and feelings of loneliness, heartache, and helplessness over the other person and over the interaction. Learn about what crazymaking is and what to do about it. Discover the only thing you CAN do!